It began with a nagging suspicion, and you’ve seen signs that point to an unfaithful partner. What now? You will need to obtain undisputable evidence of his or her infidelity before you confront your spouse.
If you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you, your relationship is probably on thin ice. But never confront your spouse without any evidence of an affair. Often, when your spouse is cheating on you, you already know by instinct that something’s wrong, even if your try to shrug off the difference in treatment and in behavior that tells you that something is not right. To end your doubts, there are ways to catch your cheating spouse. If this is what you want to do, read on and find out how.
It could be a challenging process to catch a cheating spouse. Every couple’s dynamic is different, thus each cheater conducts his or her infidelity in a different manner, according to the unique situations in a specific relationship. The process that would work for one person to catch a cheating partner could quite possibly not work for the other.
However, there are general steps that you could learn which could tell you whether your spouse is cheating or not.
Steps to Catch Cheaters
- Learn to recognize the different signs of cheating. There are no exact warning signs to look for because every relationship is not like the other. However, there are a few that could be potential signs that you must look out for such as changes in appearance, sudden requirement to stay over time at work and frequent business trips. The less obvious changes may be seen in personality, intimacy and social interaction. Remember though that some behavioral changes in your spouse are normal and it is the multiple signs that might indicate cheating that you should look for.
- Once you have become familiar with all the common warning signs, you can already tell easily if your spouse is doing something unusual. The next step would be to gather evidence that could support your intuition but try to do this without getting caught. Before you confront your spouse, you should be able to come up with tangible evidence that cannot be denied. The best place to look is the private domain of your partner. Look for crumpled bills and credit card statements. Search his clothes and check for hair and uncommon scents. The computer and mobile phone of your spouse can be a goldmine. Just remember to be very discreet and learn to take advantage of major openings to search your spouse’s private possessions for evidence which you can use later on.
- Use technology to your advantage, but before you begin with that, you should first conduct your own search of the computer that your partner usually uses. Start by searching the computer’s history, cookies and temporary internet files for any unusual activities or downloads.
That being said, know that there are some types of spy software that you can use to monitor your spouse’s activity while on the computer. This software will allow you to record emails, instant messages, files accessed and many more. Find out the advantages and disadvantages of each kind of spy software available before you start using one.